California Divorce Info Blog

I came across an excellent article on the importance of hiring a lawyer and why you really need to make sure that you get the right lawyer for your case.  Travis County divorce lawyer Scott Morgan explains in his post that you can lose money or even lose significant rights in your relationship with your children if you don’t keep your head in the game and ensure that you are protected when your spouse files for divorce.  Take a look at the post and see if you agree and come back here and post your comments.

Picking the best divorce lawyer for your case is extremely important.  Pick the wrong person to represent you and it can cause you a huge amount of grief, frustration, money, and most importantly, you can end up getting taken advantage of in your divorce.

Here is a good post I came across on how to pick the best Los Angeles divorce lawyer for your case. It describes how you should look at the lawyer’s experience and consider getting a specialist.  It also emphasizes the importance of getting a lawyer who is accessible and pay sufficient attention to your case.

Check out that post for more info.

This post gives information and details about how to get a dissolution of marriage in Bakersfield, California. Bakersfield is situated in Kern County. Marital Law cases are addressed by the Superior Court. For people who are trying to handle their own family law case the county has a “Self Help Center” which is located in the law library at 1415 Truxtun Avenue on the 3rd Floor, Bakersfield, California 93301.

The family law section of the Kern County Court system handles cases involving divorce, family violence, legal separation, annulment, child assistance, child custody, and visitation.

Here are some questions commonly asked by those who are getting a divorce in Bakersfield.

Is a trial absolutely necessary before I can get divorced?

A person getting a Bakersfield divorce can have a trial but it not a requirement. Nevertheless, it isn’t the only way to get your divorce concluded. Many cases are resolved by the parties simply reaching a settlement agreement, either with or without the assistance of attorneys. Often this happens as a result of mediation. Parties go to a third-party mediator who assists them in attempting to resolve their case.

Is it necessary to have a legal separation in my divorce situation?

It’s frequently asked whether it’s mandatory for one of the parties to obtain a legal separation prior to a divorce being finalized. As the system works a legal separation and divorce have effectively the same result legally, other than the remaining marital status within the case of legal separation. However what the separation date is can be extremely important because it is a key variable in the division of property.

How long must I pay child support?

Payment of child support in a situation involving children is mandatory until the child reaches the age of eighteen. However if the child is still in high school at the time of the eighteenth birthday, then the support can continue up to age nineteen. Also, when a child’s permanent disability is at issue, the court can order the parents to provide continuing assistance indefinitely.

Is this divorce case ever going to end?

How long a divorce case will last is very unpredictable. Occassionally cases take just a few months, while others take a year or more, with most cases being somewhere in between the two.

This article is about the divorce process in Monterey, California.  Monterey is the county seat of Monterey County.  The courthouse where family law matters are heard is located at 1200 Aguajito Road Monterey, California 93940. The courthouse is open on weekdays from 8:00 a.m. to 4:00 p.m.  The family law cases handled there include dissolution of marriage (divorce), legal separation, annulments, custody and visitation, and all other family law related matters.

Below are a few of the questions that people who are divorcing in Monterey often have.

Do I have to have a trial to get divorced?

While trial is one possible option in a divorce case, it is not necessary Many Monterey residents with a pending divorce case choose to mediation over a contested trial.  Mediation is a non-adversarial, voluntary process where divorcing couples work together with a third party mediator towards an agreement of the issues.

Do I need a legal separation?

Another common issue in a Monterey divorce case is whether it is necessary to actually file for legal separation before getting divorced.  There really is no difference between a legal separation and a divorce, other than your marital status.  The key issue is the date of separation  which is what determines when the community ceases to exist – an extremely important for property division purposes.

How long is child support payable for?

In California a child support payor in a divorce or family law case will pay child support until the child is eighteen years old or, if the child is still living at home and in high school, then until age nineteen. In a case where a child is disabled the court can order one or both parents to continue to support the disabled child who is not self-supporting.

How long does it take to get a divorce?

It is always difficult, if not impossible, to estimate how long a divorce will take.  Some take just a few months while others take well in excess of a year.  The average is probably somewhere in the range of six to twelve months.

Here is an excellent post on Fort Bend divorce.  It will be very helpful for the residents of Fort Bend County, Texas who have a family law or divorce case.

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Making it through a divorce after an abusive marriage is definitely challenging, not just for the spouse but also for any children involved.  Even a healthy divorce is painful for all members of the family.  The trauma can sometimes take years to recover from.

Physically abusive marriages are extremely painful, both physically and emotionally.  Sometimes they even and in the death of one spouse.  In order to clarify exactly what the issues are let us be clear: arguments are not typically abuse, but severely hurting your spouse, either physically or mentally, is abuse.  Threats and name calling can sometimes rise to the level of abuse.  Often an abusive situation will result when a couple begins to argue and then it escalates in a harsh way.

Often the lost victims in these situations are the children of the divorced parents.  A child can be greatly affected emotionally by witnessing repetitive arguments between the parents.  It scares a child to see his or her parents so volatile towards one another.  This frequently results in a child feeling depressed.  Much research has been done indicating that the post-divorce behavior of the parents can be even more disturbing to the child band the volatility that occurred within the marriage.

Here are some key tips and pointers that will help you if you have been in an abusive marriage and are attempting to move past it and heal.

Abusive relationships are sometimes caused by one of the spouses having experienced child abuse themselves.  Insecure children tend to grow into insecure adults.

How you handle your own children while recovering from divorce and an abusive relationship is of utmost importance.  In most situations the child will feel insecure and will need and seek out both parents.

As much as possible you should allow your children to meet and visit with the other parent and have been see you deal with the other parent on a calm basis.  Also you should avoid speaking negatively about the other parent in the children’s presence.  Children want to feel loyal to both parents and this is difficult to do when one parent speaks harshly about the other in their presence.

It is common when one parent prohibits the child from seeing the other parent, that the child will feel stuck in the middle.  Other issues can arise when you try to use the child as a messenger to avoid communicating with the other parent.  This will simply confuse the child and cause problems.

Remember that you need to put the past in the past and work on building your own life.  Except that what has happened, has happened, except that you had a role in the situation at least in some small way, and be prepared to move on.  Harboring animosity and disappointment can cause you and your children many problems.  If you feel like you are having a very difficult time doing this then you should get a counselor or therapist to assist you in moving past your issues.  Use your past as a lesson that you can learn and grow from.  Another possible improvement could occur by going to a divorce recovery class.  They are much more common now than they used to be and many participants report a great deal of improvement after attending such classes.  Often times it helps simply to have a support group who understands which are going through and can offer their own experiences, wisdom and advice on how to handle the situation best.

Getting divorced is one of the most challenging issues that a person can confront in life.  In order to recover from it fully you have to accept that there are significant changes and complications that arise from a divorce.  While you’re in the middle of it, it might seem that you will never again be able to lead a happy, normal productive life.  It takes a lot of hard work and diligence to construct a new life post-divorce.  Many people going through that situation are helped by the support of family members and friends while they go through the process.

Both partners will deal with emotional problems and often, financial problems, after a divorce.  You must think about your finances and expenses as you’re going through the process so that you can adequately deal with them and achieve an acceptable result.  Sometimes in the divorce process people get irritated and let their anger get the best of them or even suffer from depression.

There are many tools in existence that can help you as you work on building your new life and getting over your divorce, including:

Friends and counselors can assist you in putting together a redesigned life after you have separated from your spouse.  Your problems and issues can be discussed with that counselor and they can help you find solutions.  If you have a good counselor they will be frank in their advice and will tell you how to handle tough economic issues after the divorce.  It is crucial that you always remember that your life can be put back together and even improved after a divorce.  You want to avoid feeling despondent and as though life is over.  If you begin to feel overwhelmed make sure that you get professional help in moving past your issues.

Much of the time a person going through divorce will feel overwhelmed by the financial burdens newly placed on them.  Inadequate financial resources to meet your prior standard of living can cause many people to feel overwhelmed and depressed.  In time this can be overcome but you must first accept that this is a necessary stage that must be gotten through.

Having a lot of patience and a positive state of mind can be a tremendous asset in your quest to build a new life and survive after a divorce.  One of the most important things to focus on is that you are in charge and can create the stability in your own life that you desire.  You can be responsible for yourself and stand on your own two feet, especially if you pay close attention to the finances and keep your outlook positive.

Of course, if there are children involved there are many other issues to consider.  Of primary importance is that you provide the children with sufficient emotional support as they go through the difficult issues of being a child of divorce.

One last bit of advice, as you go through the divorce process you may find that you have a lot more time on your hands than you did previously.  This is especially true if you were the primary caregiver for the children and now they are frequently gone for visitation with the other parent.  You should use this time to develop other skills and hobbies that will help you feel good about yourself.  You might take a class in photography or painting or anything else that you have an interest in.  This will help you feel excited about life and give you something to think about other than the frustration and pain that often result from a failed marriage.

For most people divorce is a very stressful and unpleasant episode in their life and moving past it can be extremely challenging.  Frequently someone going through a divorce will experience unhappiness and aggravation as a result of their failed marriage.  Most people who decide to separate only do so after careful and deliberate contemplation.  Sometimes problems start with minor differences and conflicts.  Then the problems escalate and potentially become intolerable, leading to divorce.  Divorce and the initiation of separation between the spouses can dramatically change one’s life, sometimes for the worse, sometimes for the better.  One thing is for certain, it is a stressful period in one’s life.  Sometimes support groups can be very helpful in adapting to and surviving this dramatic change.

For people going through divorce who have children, the separation and divorce can be even more problematic because of the possibility of a custody case.  Your children’s needs and feelings must be considered, and they are likely to experience some emotional disturbances and frustration of their own.  Financial matters are also an issue that must be considered as well.

The very common feelings of despair and loneliness cannot be ignored.  Many people in this situation join a support group for surviving divorce as a way to help get your life back on track.  Some people simply lien on friends and families for the same function, but for those without support groups can be a lifesaver.

Support groups can offer encouragement and advice on how to deal with a situation.  People in the groups have been through the same or similar situations and can offer their experiences to you.  Just the act of having someone listen to you and empathize with your situation is enough to make you feel better.

One area that support groups can offer excellent advice is on the subject of how to handle your children and help them deal with the divorce and changing life circumstances.  No one can fully understand the significance of how important this is unless and until they have been through it themselves and help their own children move forward.  Support groups can also offer a device on how to deal with extended family and their often unsolicited opinions on how or what you should do about your situation.

Support groups also can offer a wealth of experience on dealing with the changed financial circumstances that you may find yourself in.  Often support groups will encourage you to get the advice and representation of a lawyer to ensure that your legal rights are fully protected.  Having been there themselves, some members of support groups are actually quite knowledgeable about the law in this area.

On how to find a good divorce support group, you can ask friends to been divorced and then members of such groups, and many of the groups are actually listed in the Yellow Pages under the headings of “divorce counseling,” or “mental health.”  If you have an attorney, that person can probably recommend a group or at least give you some ideas on how to find a good group to join.

Finally, if you’re going through and struggling with a divorce you should get fully consider the possibility of joining a divorce support group.  They can be quite helpful and help you to get over the hurt and frustration and work on designing a new life of your choosing.